Taken from my beloved friend Sunitha Devi
Message: For a couple who’ve been together for nearly 2 yrs, my husband & i have had the worst fights in the history of mankind, but when i was away for 4 months..we missed each other like crazy..best part is i have witnesses tat he missed me..(so i heard frm his family, my neighbours & his employees, our mutual frenz, his group of frenz).
It’s very easier for women to express themselves but for men its a NO NO. there r reasonable, statistically, scientifically & genetically proven reasons as to y men find it almost impossible to express themselves whn it comes to feelings towards a spouse.
Married couples hav heaps of arguments all the time, but most of em always find their way back home & into each other’s arms.
I heard from a married coleague of mine, that it takes a married couple atleast a 1 year to give in, adjust, tolerate & to accept your spouse for who he/she really is.
We all hav nasty habits that othrs find hard to accept, but given time, one could learn to accept the other/change/make one quit those habits without much pain.
I once worked with a guy who smoked like a chimney but he gav up ciggie the moment his 1st son was born.
If you love someone, just let em b..if they dont wanna open up to u or let u into their private life, its not cuz they dont luv u in return, but its cuz they dont wanna let u c them in a vulnerable state, they dont want u 2 know their weakness’. Giv them time, they’ll come to u when they r ready.
We all need a shoulder to cry..a fren to share ur feelings with, someone or anyone, so tat we wont hav to b alone again..juz bcoz u dont like being alone, dont fall for the wrong person…dont waste your time in a relationship tat is not worth it, coz u’d b lying to urself & d other person.
When the right girl comes along & sees u with some chick ur wit just 4 the heck of it & not into a serious relationship, she’s gonna think she doesnt have a chance with u or ur not the rite one for her & walk away 4ever.
Just b patient, make as much frenz as possible if ur afraid of being alone. Take up dancing classes, gym, kickboxing, or a new hobby watever it is, as long as ur not out there faking something & lying to urself & the temp girl/boy in ur life.
i m glad to c tat most people i cae bout have no probs in their r’ship, even if they do its not ta serious..marriage or rhip is like constructing a house, needs planning, care, attention, long hours of hardwork, dedication, good taste, comfort & confidnce tat its gonna work.
Being ignorant & taking the otehr half for granted is not gonna work. Well, tat’s all i have to say 4 now..for those u needs it, i hope u’ll ths advise 2 b helpful in some way.
Good Luck & God Bless!!
