Archive for September, 2008

28
Sep

Bagaimana Untuk Menggembirakan Hati Yang Sengsara, Sedih dan Kecewa.

Sebenarnya nak menghilangkan rasa sengsara, sedih dan kecewa caranya ada banyak, dan keberkesanannya terpulang pada ketahanan mental Anda, emosi Anda, kesabaran Anda. Tapi saya boleh jamin cara yang saya kongsikan ni, sebelum saya menulisnya, telah diguna oleh kebanyakan orang dan telah ditulis oleh ramai pakar motivasi, penulis buku pembangunan diri dan mereka sendiri telah melakukannya dulu.

Untuk tips motivasi kali ini, saya kongsikan 7 tips asas menggembirakan hati yang sengsara, sedih dan kecewa serta cara untuk berdepan dengan emosi tersebut, saya gabungkan dengan cara saya sendiri. Kita mulakan dengan…

1. Latih Minda Melupakan Kenangan Pahit.
Bunyinya senang nak dibuat, tapi perlu diaplikasi berterusan. Mengaku saja Anda sering merasa sedih sebab banyak kali mengingat kenangan pahit atau selalu kembali ke memori silam yang lalu, betul tak? Kita kena cut connection feeling kita dengan emosi yang lalu.

Mulai hari ini, tekad untuk melupakan semua tu, selupa yang mungkin, kasi kosong abis! Bulatkan azam untuk memfokus kepada masa depan Anda, cita-cita Anda, keluarga, kerjaya, kewangan, keilmuan dan rakan-rakan.

Anda takkan dapat melupakan kesemua memori pahit sekaligus, tapi lakukan step by step dengan mengalihkan perhatian Anda kepada perkara lain. Proses ini mengambil masa, tapi ia boleh dipercepatkan dengan disiplin diri.

2. Buang Sikap Risau.
Ada dua kesan dari sikap risau ni, pertama ia menarik nasib tak baik, masalah dan musibah tanpa Anda pinta. Kedua, memberi kesan buruk pada kesihatan Anda dari segi fizikal dan mental. Risau membuat Anda selalu menjadi sedih dan kecewa, kekadang takut. Untuk buang sikap risau, belajar untuk bertenang dan latih diri Anda mengawal emosi.

3. Belajar Rajin Bersyukur.
Ucap syukur atas kesemua yang Anda ada, apa saja! Misalnya, ucap syukur kerana Anda masih ada 5 deria yang lengkap, Anda boleh melihat dan menarik nafas tiap kali bangun tidur (dan bukannya bangun terus sakit jantung mahpun sudah berada di ALAM KEDUA), Anda ada kawan rapat yang memahami Anda dan Anda mempunya hanphone kesayangan Anda. Ucap syukur seikhlas hati, sebanyak yang mungkin, seikhlas mungkin hingga rasa syukur tu meresap jauh ke dalam diri Anda. Buat banyak kali dalam sehari.

4. Belajar Menjadi Pemaaf.
Sikap pemaaf dapat membersihkan hati dari perasaan negatif dan emosi-emosi negatif (takut, sedih, kecewa. gusar, menyampah, marah, geram, cemburu, tak puas hati, dendam, busuk hati). Seterusnya, meneutrakan gekombang fikiran negatif yang melekat bersarang di minda Anda.

Ketahuilah, Anda selalu rasa sedih dan kecewa kerana Anda tak memaafkan kesalahan diri Anda di masa lalu ataupun Anda tak memaafkan kesalahan orang lain tehadap diri Anda satu ketika dulu, ataupun… Anda susah menerima hakikat perbuatan salah orang lain terhadap diri Anda, yang membuat Anda sedih, kecewa dan geram tahap dewa..belajar menjadi pemaaf dan menghapus semua ni lalu menarik ketenangan datang pada diri Anda.

5. Ketawa, ketawa dan terus ketawa.
Ketawa bukan dibuat-buat, tapi biar ketawa yang benar-benar menggembirakan Anda dan menjadikan Anda girang. Tonton video yang lucu, baca cerita yang lucu, dekatkan diri Anda dengan rakan-rakan yang lucu serta cari “funny side” dalam setiap situasi, agar Anda boleh ketawa secara automatik. Ketawa dapat menghilangkan sedih. Buat apa LAYAN kecewa sedangkan Anda boleh ketawa? Come on…

6. Ubah Fikiran
Kita tak boleh merubah situasi yang boleh membuat kita kecewa, sedih dan murung. Tapi, kita boleh merubah fikiran kita dan apa yang kita fikirkan tentang situasi-situasi tersebut walau seburuk manapun ia. Rahsianya, cari sinar mentari disebalik mendungnya awan. Walaupun perkara tidak berpihak kepada Anda, cari cara bagaimana Anda boleh jumpa nilai-nilai positif di dalamnya.

Fikir yang baik-baik saja, kerana ia memberi keuntungan jangka masa panjang. Rezeki Anda murah dan segala yang baik-baik datang sendiri pada Anda. Anda menjadi apa yang Anda selalu fikirkan.

Buat apa fikir yang buruk sedangkan Anda boleh tarik semua yang baik-baik? Fikir yang buruk, Anda dapat yang buruk jawapnya. Ini hukum alam dinamakan hukum sebab dan akibat. Dalam kata yang lebih advance, itu hukum Law Of Attraction.

7. Hati Mesti ‘Keras’.
Bukan keras sembarangan, maksudnya kekerasan hati, kesabaran yang tinggi, pandai mengawal emosi dan menerima hakikat dengan hati terbuka. Allah menurunkan musibah, permasalahan dan macam-macam lagi bukan sekadar dugaan, tapi balasan pada perbuatan-perbuatan Anda di masa lalu.

Buat baik, dibalas baik, begitu juga sebaliknya. Cuba ingat balik kejahatan kecil yang Anda lakukan pada orang lain, mungkin ada walau Anda tak sedar. Itulah perlunya kita bersikap baik dan berfikir yang baik-baik pada semua orang, benda, perkara, situasi dan keadaan.

Sebelum masuk tidur, set minda untuk jadi ceria pada keesokan harinya. Lafazkan dengan nada berbisik. Relaks, jangan terlalu mendesak diri.

Selepas bangun tidur, katakan pada diri ini adalah hari yang baru untuk Anda.

Tekadkan diri untuk menjadikan hari yang baru tu hari yang baik, sungguh baik, sebaik yang mungkin dari hari yang sebelumnya.

17
Sep

Love and care for the one you love every single days of your life

A Simple Story of True Love and True Care

 

I was born in a secluded village on a mountain. Day by day, my parents
plowed the yellow dry soil with their backs towards the sky.
I have a brother who is 3 years younger than me. I wanted to buy a
handkerchief, which all girls around me seemed to have. So, one day I
stole 50 cents from my father’s drawer. Father had discovered
about the stolen money right away.

He made me and my younger brother kneel against the wall as he held a
bamboo stick in his hand. “Who stole the money?” he asked. I was stunned,
too afraid to talk. Neither of us admitted to the fault, so he said, “Fine,
if nobody wants to admit, you two should be beaten!”

H e lifted up the bamboo stick. Suddenly, my younger brother gripped
father’s hand and said,” Dad, I was the one who did it!”
The long stick smacked my brother’s back repeatedly.
Father was so angry that he kept on whipping my brother
until he lost his breath. After that, he sat down on our stone bed and
scolded my brother, “You have learned to steal from your own house now.
What other embarrassing things will you be
possibly doing in the future? You should be beaten to death,
 you shameless thief!”

That night, my mother and I hugged my brother. His body was full of wounds
from the beating but he never shed a single tear. In the middle of the
night, all of sudden, I cried out loudly. My brother covered my mouth with
his little hand and said, ” Sis, now don’t cry anymore. Everything has
happened.”

I still hate myself for not having enough courage to admit what I did.
Years gone by, but the incident still seemed like it just happened yesterday. I
will never forget my brother’s __expression when he protected me.
That year, my brother was 8 years old and I was 11 years old. When my
brother was in his last year of secondary school, he was accepted in an
upper secondary school in the central. At the same time, I was accepted
into a university in the province. That night, father squatted in the yard,
smoking, packet by packet.

I could hear him ask my mother, “Both of our children, they have good
results? very good results?” Mother wiped off her tears and sighed,” What
is the use? How can we possibly finance both of them?” At that time, my
brother walked out, he stood in front
of father and said,”Dad, I don’t want to continue my study anymore, I have
read enough books.”

Father swung his hand and slapped my brother on his face. “Why do you have a
spirit so damn weak? Even if it means I have to beg for money on the
streets, I will send you two to school until you have both finished your
study!”

And then, he started to knock on every house in the village to borrow
money. I stuck out my hand as gently as I can to my brother’s swollen
face, and told him, “A boy has to continue his study; If not, he will not
be able to overcome this poverty we are experiencing.”

I, on the other hand, had decided not to further my study at the
university. Nobody knew that on the next day, before dawn, my brother left
the house with a few pieces of worn-out clothes and a few dry beans. He
sneaked to my side of the bed and left a note on my pillow; “Sis, getting
into a university is not easy. I will go find a job
and I will send money to you.”

I held the note while sitting on my bed, and cried until I lost my voice.
That year, my brother was 17 years old; I was 20 years old. With the money father
borrowed from the whole village, and the money my brother earned from
carrying cement on his back at a construction site,finally, I managed to
get to the third year of my study in the university.

One day, while I was studying in my room, my roommate came in and told
me,”There’s a villager waiting for you outside!” Why would there be a
villager looking for me? I walked out, and I saw my brother from afar. His
whole body was covered with dirt, dust, cement and sand. I asked him, “Why
did you not tell my roommate that you are my
brother?”

He replied with a smile,” Look at my appearance. What will they think if
they would know that I am your brother? Won’t they laugh at you?” I felt
so touched, and tears filled my eyes. I swept away dirt and dust from my
brother’s body. And told him with a lump in my throat, ” I don’t care
what people would say! You are my brother no matter what your appearance is?”

From his pocket, he took out a butterfly hair clip. He put it on my hair
and said, “I saw all the girls in town are wearing it. So, I think you
should also have one.” I could not hold back myself anymore. I pulled my
brother into my arms and cried.

That year, my brother was 20 years old; I was 23 years old. I noticed that
the broken window was repaired the first time I brought my boyfriend home.
The house was scrubbed cleaned. After my boyfriend left, I danced like a little girl in
front of my mother, “Mom, you didn’t have to spend so much time cleaning
the house!” But she told me with a smile,”

It was your brother who went home early to clean the house. Didn’t you see
the wound on his hand? He hurt his hand while he was replacing the window.”
I went into my brother’s bedroom. Looking at his thin face, I felt like
there are hundreds of needle pricked in my heart.
I applied some ointment on his wound and put a bandage on it, “Does it
hurt? ” I asked him. “No, it doesn’t hurt. You know, when at the
construction site, stones keep falling on my feet . Even that could not
stop me from working.” In the middle of the sentence, he stopped. I turned
my back on him and tears rolled down my face.

That year, my brother was 23 years old; I was 26 years old. After I got
married, I lived in the city. Many times my husband invited my parents to
come and live with us, but they didn’t want. They said, once they left the
village,they wouldn’t know what to do. My brother agreed with them. He
said, “Sis, you just take care of your parents-in-law. I will take care of
mom and dad here.”

My husband became the director of his factory. We asked my brother to
accept the offer of being the manager in the maintenance department. But my
brother rejected the offer. He insisted on working as a repairman instead
for a start.

One day, my brother was on the top of a ladder repairing a cable, when he
got electrocuted, and was sent to the hospital. My husband and I visited
him at the hospital. Looking at the white gypsum on his leg, I grumbled,
“Why did you reject the offer of being a manager? Managers won’t do
something dangerous like that. Now look at you, You ar suffering a serious
injury. Why didn’t you just listen to us?”

With a serious expression on his face, he defended his decision, “Think of
brother-in-law. He just became the director, and I being uneducated, and
would become a manager, what kind of rumors would fly around?” My
husband’s eyes filled up with tears, and then I said, “But you lack in
education only because of me!” “Why do you talk about the past?” he said
and then he held my hand.

That year, he was 26 years old and I was 29 years old. My brother was 30
years old when he married a farmer girl from the village. During the
wedding reception, the master of ceremonies asked him, “Who is the one
person you respect and love the most?”

Without even taking a time to think, he answered,” My sister.” He continued
by telling a story I could not even remember.
“When I was in primary school, the school was in a different village.
Everyday, my sister and I would walk for 2 hours to school and back home.
One day, I lost the other pair of my gloves. My sister gave me one of hers.
She wore only one glove and she had to walk far. When we got home, her
hands were trembling because of the cold weather that she could not even
hold her chopsticks.

From that day on, I swore that as long as I live, I would take care of my
sister and will always be good to her.” Applause filled up the room. All
guests turned their attention to me. I found it hard to speak, “In my
whole life, the one I would like to thank most is my brother,” And in this
happy occasion,in front of the crowd, tears were rolling down my face
again.

*Love and care for the one you love every single days of your life.* You
may think what you did is just a small deed, but to that someone, it may
mean a lot.

01
Sep

I asked for love…

I asked for strength…
And ALLAH gave me difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for wisdom…
And ALLAH gave me problem to solve.

I asked for prosperity…
And ALLAH gave me brain and brawn to work.

I asked for courage…
And ALLAH gave me danger to overcome.

I asked for love…
And ALLAH gave me trouble people to help.

I asked for favours…
And ALLAH gave me opportunities.

I received nothing that I wanted…
But I received everything that I need.